Converting oneself to bleached?

BlutWieEisen said:

I think you're looking at this the wrong way. It's not necessarily blacked that's ruining your life, it's a dependency on porn and its consequences for your brain that is.

As much as Bleached loves to grandstand over Blacked as being the wholesome version of raceplay, you can find pedophilia, genuine racism and the same energy of ''kill/enslave the men, take the women'' here. Sure, the latter wouldn't target you here as it would in Blacked and it is good that you realize it's not making you happier to be in that space, I just doubt you would miraculously glow up from being in Bleached instead.

You mention relapsing, and you should take that seriously. I've been around addicts of all kinds before, from drugs to sex/love to alcoholics, but an addiction is an addiction. It's a real disease that doesn't discriminate and will only get worse if left unchecked. Porn addiction isn't some funny, quirky kink thing that you just do for the hell of it. You sound like you're struggling, and you deserve to feel happier and healthier. That's not going to happen as long as you keep surrounding yourself with enabling factors, the colour of said factors is not relevant, just like how an alcoholic that used to slam whiskey wouldn't be able to stay sober drinking cognac instead.

Wish you the best.

Yes, i generally agree with this in that porn addiction is the main problem, the issue is, especially for men, almost all are addicted to porn unless they get a healthy sexual relationship early enough cause unlike alcohol or drugs or gambling, sex is kinda deeply ingrained into us. Being horny isnt something that you can just cause to go away by resisting the urge to relapse long enough. It will always come back, unless you get really old that your sex drive dies out.

B2B said:

What is a femdom? I always heard this term but never understood what I was..
I hope I can replace blacked with such kinks lol

If you have a preference for men, it wouldnt work. Femdom is just female domination, like what you like but with women as the dominate. Although maybe pegging would do something for you?

BlutWieEisen said:

I think you're looking at this the wrong way. It's not necessarily blacked that's ruining your life, it's a dependency on porn and its consequences for your brain that is.

As much as Bleached loves to grandstand over Blacked as being the wholesome version of raceplay, you can find pedophilia, genuine racism and the same energy of ''kill/enslave the men, take the women'' here. Sure, the latter wouldn't target you here as it would in Blacked and it is good that you realize it's not making you happier to be in that space, I just doubt you would miraculously glow up from being in Bleached instead.

You mention relapsing, and you should take that seriously. I've been around addicts of all kinds before, from drugs to sex/love to alcoholics, but an addiction is an addiction. It's a real disease that doesn't discriminate and will only get worse if left unchecked. Porn addiction isn't some funny, quirky kink thing that you just do for the hell of it. You sound like you're struggling, and you deserve to feel happier and healthier. That's not going to happen as long as you keep surrounding yourself with enabling factors, the colour of said factors is not relevant, just like how an alcoholic that used to slam whiskey wouldn't be able to stay sober drinking cognac instead.

Wish you the best.

You are touching on something's that's right. I've been struggling with porn addiction for years and I never was able to leave. I know I have a problem with it, but blacked really made it worse and is making me less self-confident. I need to get rid of the blacked fetish to leave porn though because it has made any attempt to leaving porn more than 1 day unsuccessful. Whereas I could easily go 1 week free before.
Thank you for that comment and wow, how did you know I had a more general problem? I needed a more serious message reminding me this is not some funny addiction, this is something important. I am trying to get help and it's been starting to work.

fkiblaze said:

Yes, i generally agree with this in that porn addiction is the main problem, the issue is, especially for men, almost all are addicted to porn unless they get a healthy sexual relationship early enough cause unlike alcohol or drugs or gambling, sex is kinda deeply ingrained into us. Being horny isnt something that you can just cause to go away by resisting the urge to relapse long enough. It will always come back, unless you get really old that your sex drive dies out.

I think it might be linked to genetics as well, the same way some people get more easily addicted to alcohol than others. But I agree it's very easy in our modern world to become addicted to porn.

B2B said:

I think it might be linked to genetics as well, the same way some people get more easily addicted to alcohol than others. But I agree it's very easy in our modern world to become addicted to porn.

Well no doubt, that's part of my point in it being deeply ingrained. Most everything has a genetic basis, the issue is sex is so fundamentally part of that genetic basis, it's something that is really hard to "cure" because of. Where as other addictions like drugs or so on, not everyone really has a pathway to get addicted because those types of additions are misfirings or pathways built for other things. Evolution didn't make people to get addicted to drugs, drugs just hijack part of the brain developed for another reason, evolution did make people to "get addicted to sex". That said there are some drugs designed to kill libido.

B2B said:

You are touching on something's that's right. I've been struggling with porn addiction for years and I never was able to leave. I know I have a problem with it, but blacked really made it worse and is making me less self-confident. I need to get rid of the blacked fetish to leave porn though because it has made any attempt to leaving porn more than 1 day unsuccessful. Whereas I could easily go 1 week free before.
Thank you for that comment and wow, how did you know I had a more general problem? I needed a more serious message reminding me this is not some funny addiction, this is something important. I am trying to get help and it's been starting to work.

Addiction is a lived experience for me, brother. I went to rehab in 2018 and while my own diagnosis was disputed and later overturned by professionals with it being a much more favourable ''behavioural issues'' on my file, I was around addicts of all sorts in rehab and the subsequent safe house I went to to integrate myself back into society, become a functioning adult pretty much.

I've been to meetings, followed the 12 steps and most importantly, I saw people struggling with whatever their specific issue may have been as not just sad junkies and wayward souls, rather people that had a lot to offer and just needed to get the help they deserved. Some of them are clean to this day, some of them had setbacks and are working on it still and I've had to bury 2 as well.

I don't say that to scare you, rather to drive it home that porn addiction is an addiction too, and the first thing they'll teach you in any rehab program or meeting circle is to not look at yourself as more or less addicted than someone that might, say, be an alcoholic. Ask yourself how destructive it's been for your overall QoL and mental health, and then realize it's not so different after all. I really hope you take it seriously, not because some shmuck on the racist porn website gave you a reality check, but because you deserve to feel happier.

You acknowledge you have a problem, that's the very first step. Just don't take the wrong treatment for it.

fkiblaze said:

Well no doubt, that's part of my point in it being deeply ingrained. Most everything has a genetic basis, the issue is sex is so fundamentally part of that genetic basis, it's something that is really hard to "cure" because of. Where as other addictions like drugs or so on, not everyone really has a pathway to get addicted because those types of additions are misfirings or pathways built for other things. Evolution didn't make people to get addicted to drugs, drugs just hijack part of the brain developed for another reason, evolution did make people to "get addicted to sex". That said there are some drugs designed to kill libido.

Nah, I don't want to castrate myself with drugs...

BlutWieEisen said:

Addiction is a lived experience for me, brother. I went to rehab in 2018 and while my own diagnosis was disputed and later overturned by professionals with it being a much more favourable ''behavioural issues'' on my file, I was around addicts of all sorts in rehab and the subsequent safe house I went to to integrate myself back into society, become a functioning adult pretty much.

I've been to meetings, followed the 12 steps and most importantly, I saw people struggling with whatever their specific issue may have been as not just sad junkies and wayward souls, rather people that had a lot to offer and just needed to get the help they deserved. Some of them are clean to this day, some of them had setbacks and are working on it still and I've had to bury 2 as well.

I don't say that to scare you, rather to drive it home that porn addiction is an addiction too, and the first thing they'll teach you in any rehab program or meeting circle is to not look at yourself as more or less addicted than someone that might, say, be an alcoholic. Ask yourself how destructive it's been for your overall QoL and mental health, and then realize it's not so different after all. I really hope you take it seriously, not because some shmuck on the racist porn website gave you a reality check, but because you deserve to feel happier.

You acknowledge you have a problem, that's the very first step. Just don't take the wrong treatment for it.

Oh, it seems like you had pretty serious issues, I'm glad you were able to fight them my brother!
It does scare me a bit you saying that but yes, it is definitely a reality check (although I hope not just that in the long term)! That is true, it's been pretty much preventing me from being productive and it degraded my self-confidence greatly. The problem is that I always keep telling myself porn addiction isn't real because there are so many articles of experts on mainstream medias saying you cannot be addicted to porn. That's a rock in my shoe. I feel like I am addicted but at the same time it could just be placebo effect. I feel like I'm not fully conscious yet because there is no official diagnosis.

Get a standing desk, physically flee temptation when it arises and develop a visceral disgust to the things you hate.

B2B said:

Oh, it seems like you had pretty serious issues, I'm glad you were able to fight them my brother!
It does scare me a bit you saying that but yes, it is definitely a reality check (although I hope not just that in the long term)! That is true, it's been pretty much preventing me from being productive and it degraded my self-confidence greatly. The problem is that I always keep telling myself porn addiction isn't real because there are so many articles of experts on mainstream medias saying you cannot be addicted to porn. That's a rock in my shoe. I feel like I am addicted but at the same time it could just be placebo effect. I feel like I'm not fully conscious yet because there is no official diagnosis.

For me it was kind of the opposite. I was told by my parents that I had an addiction to video games and it was later overturned by addiction councillors and my sponsor stating that had been a misdiagnosis, but it doesn't really matter *what* your problem might or might not be. That's kind of what I'm getting at. If in the best case scenario it comes out that you don't have a dependency on porn and can just live normally with the occasional indulgence then hell yeah, good for you.

What do you honestly have to lose from seeking out help? It doesn't have to be some grandiose rehab thing either, even just calling a local AA/NA meeting could provide you with some insights.

B2B said:

Oh, it seems like you had pretty serious issues, I'm glad you were able to fight them my brother!
It does scare me a bit you saying that but yes, it is definitely a reality check (although I hope not just that in the long term)! That is true, it's been pretty much preventing me from being productive and it degraded my self-confidence greatly. The problem is that I always keep telling myself porn addiction isn't real because there are so many articles of experts on mainstream medias saying you cannot be addicted to porn. That's a rock in my shoe. I feel like I am addicted but at the same time it could just be placebo effect. I feel like I'm not fully conscious yet because there is no official diagnosis.

Bro the "porn addiction isnt real" people are the same propagandist that lie about everything else in society because they wana destroy us. Porn addiction is a massive problem in many countries.

fkiblaze said:

Bro the "porn addiction isnt real" people are the same propagandist that lie about everything else in society because they wana destroy us. Porn addiction is a massive problem in many countries.

Yep. It’s odd though, because as much as I hate porn addiction I find that porn as an art form can be used for good, despite how destructive it is when it goes in the wrong direction. Like like how Pagans idealised the nude body in sculptures, yet they’re nude, so Christians or any kind of puritan would declare it degenerate etc

I was actually talking with a friend of mine about this. How my porn journey started with discovering my fathers lewd comic book stash, then played flash sex games and then watched brazzers 1min trailers. I didn't start watching regular long-form porn videos until my later teens. Contrast this with todays generation where everything is so oversexualized. They get their first smartphone at 9 and statistically start masturbating at that age as well. It's no wonder a lot of people end up becoming porn addicted gooners.

You can end your porn addiction either through cold turkey or progressively. Instead of having 20 tabs open, just jack off to one video, after a week start jacking off to pictures, then erotic stories, then using just your imagination.

This might be an unpopular opinion but people becoming LGBT more often than not is rooted in some sort of childhood trauma, usually sexual trauma. Maybe you need to do some introspection as to what is making you this way. I don't think being a feminine (especially white) man is a good thing, but wish you luck in your recovery, wherever it may lead you.

T_700_Z said:

Get a standing desk, physically flee temptation when it arises and develop a visceral disgust to the things you hate.

How to develop this disgust? I’ve been trying to hit myself every time I think about porn but it doesn’t work.

BlutWieEisen said:

For me it was kind of the opposite. I was told by my parents that I had an addiction to video games and it was later overturned by addiction councillors and my sponsor stating that had been a misdiagnosis, but it doesn't really matter *what* your problem might or might not be. That's kind of what I'm getting at. If in the best case scenario it comes out that you don't have a dependency on porn and can just live normally with the occasional indulgence then hell yeah, good for you.

What do you honestly have to lose from seeking out help? It doesn't have to be some grandiose rehab thing either, even just calling a local AA/NA meeting could provide you with some insights.

I don’t control myself anymore. I just relapsed around 15 minutes ago. I feel trapped. I don’t live in the US and I think there is no such meetings where I live. It is a living nightmare. This is destroying me.

TallWhiteAndHung said:

I was actually talking with a friend of mine about this. How my porn journey started with discovering my fathers lewd comic book stash, then played flash sex games and then watched brazzers 1min trailers. I didn't start watching regular long-form porn videos until my later teens. Contrast this with todays generation where everything is so oversexualized. They get their first smartphone at 9 and statistically start masturbating at that age as well. It's no wonder a lot of people end up becoming porn addicted gooners.

You can end your porn addiction either through cold turkey or progressively. Instead of having 20 tabs open, just jack off to one video, after a week start jacking off to pictures, then erotic stories, then using just your imagination.

This might be an unpopular opinion but people becoming LGBT more often than not is rooted in some sort of childhood trauma, usually sexual trauma. Maybe you need to do some introspection as to what is making you this way. I don't think being a feminine (especially white) man is a good thing, but wish you luck in your recovery, wherever it may lead you.

I have no control over what I do anymore. I cannot physically prevent myself from doing what I am doing when I feel the need to do it. There is no more rationality.
I didn’t choose to be like this. I already behaved a bit feminine as a child and played with girl’s toys, so I was probably just born that way. Thanks for your encouragement.

B2B said:

I don’t control myself anymore. I just relapsed around 15 minutes ago. I feel trapped. I don’t live in the US and I think there is no such meetings where I live. It is a living nightmare. This is destroying me.

one thing ive noticed is if you get anxiety or feel bad over it, it makes it worse because fetishizes feed of disgust and anxiety. I suppose the only way it would get better is if you just see it only as a normal porn thing, then it will lose it's interest.

AryanSuperSoldier said:

Yep. It’s odd though, because as much as I hate porn addiction I find that porn as an art form can be used for good, despite how destructive it is when it goes in the wrong direction. Like like how Pagans idealised the nude body in sculptures, yet they’re nude, so Christians or any kind of puritan would declare it degenerate etc

I dont really think live action porn is art, but im fine with some hentai cause it's literally drawings. Like the artist makes it with their hands like any other art.

TallWhiteAndHung said:
Contrast this with todays generation where everything is so oversexualized. They get their first smartphone at 9 and statistically start masturbating at that age as well. It's no wonder a lot of people end up becoming porn addicted gooners.

The fact that this is just modern society and no one really does much to prevent it is insane. if you get children addicted to something when their brain is still developing it's going to be stuck with them. I didnt have a smartphone until i went to college, but even then i still started seeing porn earlier because of computers. The fact that parents just have computers with no bother to even childproof them is so wierd.

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