A question to the girls from a girl... (Anyone can chime in though.)

I am a mixed black woman (half white) wondering if any other girl here has been in a long-term relationship with a guy (white) who they think would be horrified at this kink - yet you’re kind of into it in a way that is almost… overwhelming to you?

I don’t know if I could ever tell him, but then I find myself making my way to places like this forum to release what I almost feel is sexual frustration due to it.

Have any of you ever like… told your boyfriend? Did he take it well? Was he weirded out? Idk. I was way into it before him and I ever started even talking or dating and was in and out of communities. Sometimes I miss it, but I would never do anything to jepoardize my relationship.

So?

Well, I've only dated 3 guys but they've all been white. One was from the USA the other Dutch and the last one was Polish.
I didn't tell my first boyfriend because of the same reason, I was too scared even though he was mostly right wing, condemned mass immigration, said on multiple times that "white people know best" as a response on multiple arguments etc.
my second boyfriend was very liberal and more of a SJW than anything. I did hint at me liking the idea of getting bleached (I called it carrying a colonizers child if I remember correctly) and he was completely appalled so I didn't mention it again.
I did finally muster up the courage to say something after I had been seeing my third bf for 6 months or so. He loved it, he felt so appreciated by me praising his white dick or telling him that I hoped our kids would be white etc.

So I'd say test the waters with little comments here and there before you speak up your full truth, check his reactions and if he likes it enough he may even bring it up himself!

LatinaOfHearts said:

Well, I've only dated 3 guys but they've all been white. One was from the USA the other Dutch and the last one was Polish.
I didn't tell my first boyfriend because of the same reason, I was too scared even though he was mostly right wing, condemned mass immigration, said on multiple times that "white people know best" as a response on multiple arguments etc.
my second boyfriend was very liberal and more of a SJW than anything. I did hint at me liking the idea of getting bleached (I called it carrying a colonizers child if I remember correctly) and he was completely appalled so I didn't mention it again.
I did finally muster up the courage to say something after I had been seeing my third bf for 6 months or so. He loved it, he felt so appreciated by me praising his white dick or telling him that I hoped our kids would be white etc.

So I'd say test the waters with little comments here and there before you speak up your full truth, check his reactions and if he likes it enough he may even bring it up himself!

I’ve had so many opportunities to do that too, but I get so shy everytime.. Though you’ve inspired me a little to stop being a wuss about it.. Thanks for responding. ♡

achocolatebunny said:

I am a mixed black woman (half white) wondering if any other girl here has been in a long-term relationship with a guy (white) who they think would be horrified at this kink - yet you’re kind of into it in a way that is almost… overwhelming to you?

I don’t know if I could ever tell him, but then I find myself making my way to places like this forum to release what I almost feel is sexual frustration due to it.

Have any of you ever like… told your boyfriend? Did he take it well? Was he weirded out? Idk. I was way into it before him and I ever started even talking or dating and was in and out of communities. Sometimes I miss it, but I would never do anything to jepoardize my relationship.

So?

As a guy, I can tell you that as long as you don't make it extremely negative ("Black/Latino men are ugly, so I go for White guys." or "carrying a colonizer's child" are pretty much examples of this.) we'll probably always be into it when you say "I have a fetish for White guys!" and we even know it before you even say it; your act of confessing it to us merely helps you to be kinkier.

If you remove the content of the kink itself it just comes down to communicating with your partner about your interests and fantasies in a bedroom setting. I come from BDSM which is obviously an umbrella term for a whole myriad of kinks, some darker and some more vanilla. Whenever I'd plan any scene with a partner it could take hours to lay our kinks on the table, find common ground and plan something from there.

You're never going to meet someone who matches your kinks a perfect 100%, but especially when it comes to a romantic partner it's wrong to withhold these ideas while privately indulging in them. He deserves to know and you deserve to know where he stands, so you can work something out. If he's not into it, ask if it's alright with him that you look at this stuff in your own time. If he is, great, gradually work it into your sex life.

It sucks to hear, but as cliche as it is the relationship won't work if you don't communicate. If it's a dealbreaker for him, it wasn't going to last anyways.

I suppose just make things jokes at first. Like say, "I saw the term bleached on the internet and thought it was related to actual bleach, but guess i was wrong". and that sort of thing.

My advice is that you have to know if hes gonna be able to be receptive to hints. Let me explain:

Ive only had 2 boyfriends so far. The first I dropped hints, but he didnt realize what I was doing. So I just left it alone. With my second boyfriend, a orthodox marxist, was pretty keen on my hints and was into it. I mention his political leanings because that was how he was able to pick up my hints. And Marxists are materialists at heart. And so he takes his observations seriously. My point is, its gonna be successful sometimes and sometimes not. You never know, but if you really want to try bleached raceplay with him then give it a try. Its SO worth it when its successful

achocolatebunny said:

I am a mixed black woman (half white) wondering if any other girl here has been in a long-term relationship with a guy (white) who they think would be horrified at this kink - yet you’re kind of into it in a way that is almost… overwhelming to you?

I don’t know if I could ever tell him, but then I find myself making my way to places like this forum to release what I almost feel is sexual frustration due to it.

Have any of you ever like… told your boyfriend? Did he take it well? Was he weirded out? Idk. I was way into it before him and I ever started even talking or dating and was in and out of communities. Sometimes I miss it, but I would never do anything to jepoardize my relationship.

So?

I think with liberal white guys or them not liking the kink because they think it's degrading to you, you'd probably have to find some workaround, I remember looking the booru and there's some femdom elements like fucking your white bf amazon style and draining his seed so you can have mixed/white babies and stuff like these posts
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But if you go too far, it's not really bleached, more like fem(race)ed which is basically ethnic chicks having full control over white guys and degrade them instead of giving him a handjob or draining his seed away.
Then go on from there until your bf will finally do some whitedom with you but without forcing him to do so.
That's just my opinion. Maybe throw some jokes in there like fki said.

Re-edited it because it accidentally pasted other stuff that I originally wrote but had to copy because Firefox doesnt like me so I had to quickly copy those or I'll get logged out. if you see spam from me, sorry about that. I didn't even realize the stuff I've pasted was still there and I forgot to delete it.