My girlfriend got me into this and I'm trying to play along

My girlfriend is black; we've been together for two years.
She's been asking me to call her all the slurs in the book and dominate her, treating her like a slave. She's recently been talking about me screaming at her during sex, saying how I'm going to give her my "superior genes".
Apparently this sort of fetish is a hell of a lot more common than I ever expected among black women. And that was a huge surprise to me.

It's hard, because I don't see her as "less than" me - but SHE wants me to not only treat her as someone who's inferior but actually believe her to be inferior. I don't hit her or abuse her, that's a line I won't cross. However, it sometimes feels that she wants me to actually be racist when I'm repulsed by the idea.
I want to indulge her, but I don't want to actually be cruel.
What's some elements I can incorporate into this lifestyle that would be a good compromise?

Dogwater said:

My girlfriend is black; we've been together for two years.
She's been asking me to call her all the slurs in the book and dominate her, treating her like a slave. She's recently been talking about me screaming at her during sex, saying how I'm going to give her my "superior genes".
Apparently this sort of fetish is a hell of a lot more common than I ever expected among black women. And that was a huge surprise to me.

It's hard, because I don't see her as "less than" me - but SHE wants me to not only treat her as someone who's inferior but actually believe her to be inferior. I don't hit her or abuse her, that's a line I won't cross. However, it sometimes feels that she wants me to actually be racist when I'm repulsed by the idea.
I want to indulge her, but I don't want to actually be cruel.
What's some elements I can incorporate into this lifestyle that would be a good compromise?

I think you should sit down with her and tell her what you feel and where your limits and holdbacks lie, Ask her what aspects of the fetish she finds hot etc. Just try to understand what she finds appealing about this fetish and try to touch upon that.

If you are not comfortable with abusing her (I have been in the same boat) a good compromise is just to be slightly rougher in bed and just lay it thick with dirty talk. You don't have to say slurs if you don't want to or call her names. Just put attention to the contrast of skin colors while you have sex. Things like: "you like my white cock don't you?"(standard but works and is a good starting point), grabbing her stomach and saying shit like "you think my strong white hand looks good against the outside of your black womb? Let me make it even better and put a white baby inside it". Same for outside of sex just bring attention to what you are and she will fill in the blanks

You don't actually have to get hateful. Just put attention to the fact that you are white and she is black and be slightly possessive and her mind might fill in the rest tbh

Nordic_redhaired_Bvll said:

I think you should sit down with her and tell her what you feel and where your limits and holdbacks lie, Ask her what aspects of the fetish she finds hot etc. Just try to understand what she finds appealing about this fetish and try to touch upon that.

If you are not comfortable with abusing her (I have been in the same boat) a good compromise is just to be slightly rougher in bed and just lay it thick with dirty talk. You don't have to say slurs if you don't want to or call her names. Just put attention to the contrast of skin colors while you have sex. Things like: "you like my white cock don't you?"(standard but works and is a good starting point), grabbing her stomach and saying shit like "you think my strong white hand looks good against the outside of your black womb? Let me make it even better and put a white baby inside it"

You don't actually have to get hateful. Just put attention to the fact that you are white and she is black and be slightly possessive and her mind might fill in the rest tbh

Also remember that sex should be fun for both parties and a way to explore eachother. So you should ideally do some searching about what you like too and start from there aswell. So I could ask you is there anything race related that you like about her?

Another idea that I have done is to rp out kinks with my partners that I am iffy about to see if I like them. Idk how into erp you are but it could be a great way to explore the kink without the potential to cause harm to you both

Dogwater said:

My girlfriend is black; we've been together for two years.
She's been asking me to call her all the slurs in the book and dominate her, treating her like a slave. She's recently been talking about me screaming at her during sex, saying how I'm going to give her my "superior genes".
Apparently this sort of fetish is a hell of a lot more common than I ever expected among black women. And that was a huge surprise to me.

It's hard, because I don't see her as "less than" me - but SHE wants me to not only treat her as someone who's inferior but actually believe her to be inferior. I don't hit her or abuse her, that's a line I won't cross. However, it sometimes feels that she wants me to actually be racist when I'm repulsed by the idea.
I want to indulge her, but I don't want to actually be cruel.
What's some elements I can incorporate into this lifestyle that would be a good compromise?

Thank you for the detailed post. First of all welcome to the weird world of raceplay. It's confusing, disorienting, and generally something that someone has to warm up too.

As for starters I think you should start with the basics. Your gf wants to feel humiliated and inferior. This means she has a DEEP level of trust in you that you won't cross a line to hurt her. So try to soothe those self doubts about hurting her feelings with the knowledge that she trusts you to do this.

Next time you both are getting frisky, maybe call her a well disciplined negro or your beautiful darkie. Don't drop a slur but intermix some genuine praise with something that seems racist. Maybe call her your house slave or boot licker. Experiment with this and try to find a happy medium. After that make her do this to you. Tell her to praise you like she wants to do. Maybe make her prove it with an act of servitude or anything really. Perhaps you can tell her to get on her knees and call you Massa.

Once you're comfortable with that then you can go further and further until you both reach a point where it's too much. Also if you feel like a racist after it's all done communicate this to her. Sometimes we need that zealous green light from our partner to fully accept what they want us to do

I had this same thing happen to me. Me and her discovered it both, on accident, at the same time. One bet about being able to break her, make her beg for mercy within a set time limit, and it awoke something in her, and in turn in me. She was a Domme, and had never gotten it rough before. But, being degraded, humiliated, consensually abused, paddled, whipped, talked down to-

It gave her the best orgasms of her life.

The main thing to keep in mind is this: It is just a kink. You can happily work on pressing her buttons, that give her the biggest reactions, and not give two fucks about what anyone else thinks. While you two are in that bedroom, there is no one else that matters. Your parents arent watching. Your coworkers arent watching. Your friends arent watching. The ONLY two people whose opinion matters in that time and place, are yours, and hers. If you want to help her feel amazing with this kink, then do it. If you fear youre 'going to become racist if you pretend to believe it' Then make sure that afterword, you soothe her, caress her, love her, and make sure you remind her and yourself, that these are just fantasies, that you dont truly believe them, that you arent truly dehumanizing her. That you care for her, and respect her, and the trust she is placing in your hands.

The Primary thing I ALWAYS make sure to emphasize with partners, is that communication is REQUIRED. You cant have it be one way. You cant keep secrets. You cant tell little white lies. You have to be blunt, forward, and honest, at ALL times. No matter if that is just flatly saying "I am truly uncomfortable with this kind of fun. I dont wish to even entertain it." If that is the truth, you have to say it, clearly.

Thank you all for your input. We've actually found a happy medium.

So we've kinda just both become more aggressive in bed. While I'm pounding away at her, yelling how she needs to want a white baby, she screams back how my ass is putting a ring on her finger and I'm NOT going to be getting away with just child support. It's actually a lot of fun.
We've been using condoms and bc so I'm not too concerned with any possible surprise pregnancy (even though I was the result of my parents using both and still ending up with me).

That being said, we've been doing this more and more, and pushing each other to our limits. Good times.