Real talk, I'm terrified to do interracial IRL

So I'm a white guy who only has experience with white women and I've been wanting to do interracial and try out different types of women. As much as I love WMAF, I want to start with a black girl, I just love the contrast between chocolate and vanilla.
But the truth is... I'm scared shitless

The girl is definitely NOT into that kink so I'll behave normally, that's not the problem. I'm not 100% racist either.
What scares me is that I'm setting myself up for performance anxiety: as a white man I must be better, I must be perfect in every way, especially in bed. I'll be going there with the goal to claim her, impress her, convert her and not just have a good time. The bar is so high.

Plus there's always the initial stress of going down with a new partner. Mix it with what I've just said and yeah I'm terrified.
So I'm not making any move right now until I can work on myself and that mindset. If I go in right now, I can feel the catastrophic night coming. As much as I LOVE our kink, it's doing a huge disservice to me right now by constantly glazing white men and focusing on white superiority.

Any advice?

asking about actually having sex on a hentai website, intriguing...

but idk man, just like dont care about that stuff and have sex normally like you would with a white girl? easier said than done i guess.

JostoBWC said:

So I'm a white guy who only has experience with white women and I've been wanting to do interracial and try out different types of women. As much as I love WMAF, I want to start with a black girl, I just love the contrast between chocolate and vanilla.
But the truth is... I'm scared shitless

The girl is definitely NOT into that kink so I'll behave normally, that's not the problem. I'm not 100% racist either.
What scares me is that I'm setting myself up for performance anxiety: as a white man I must be better, I must be perfect in every way, especially in bed. I'll be going there with the goal to claim her, impress her, convert her and not just have a good time. The bar is so high.

Plus there's always the initial stress of going down with a new partner. Mix it with what I've just said and yeah I'm terrified.
So I'm not making any move right now until I can work on myself and that mindset. If I go in right now, I can feel the catastrophic night coming. As much as I LOVE our kink, it's doing a huge disservice to me right now by constantly glazing white men and focusing on white superiority.

Any advice?

If bleached is making you anxious to the point where you feel like having sex with a black girl would "set you up for disaster" I think its time to drop this kink and porn in general. Atleast for a while to see if it does you good. But to me I think you might be overthinking too much

JostoBWC said:

So I'm a white guy who only has experience with white women and I've been wanting to do interracial and try out different types of women. As much as I love WMAF, I want to start with a black girl, I just love the contrast between chocolate and vanilla.
But the truth is... I'm scared shitless

The girl is definitely NOT into that kink so I'll behave normally, that's not the problem. I'm not 100% racist either.
What scares me is that I'm setting myself up for performance anxiety: as a white man I must be better, I must be perfect in every way, especially in bed. I'll be going there with the goal to claim her, impress her, convert her and not just have a good time. The bar is so high.

Plus there's always the initial stress of going down with a new partner. Mix it with what I've just said and yeah I'm terrified.
So I'm not making any move right now until I can work on myself and that mindset. If I go in right now, I can feel the catastrophic night coming. As much as I LOVE our kink, it's doing a huge disservice to me right now by constantly glazing white men and focusing on white superiority.

Any advice?

Go for an actual relationship you want to have last and not just some random black chick.

JostoBWC said:

So I'm a white guy who only has experience with white women and I've been wanting to do interracial and try out different types of women. As much as I love WMAF, I want to start with a black girl, I just love the contrast between chocolate and vanilla.
But the truth is... I'm scared shitless

The girl is definitely NOT into that kink so I'll behave normally, that's not the problem. I'm not 100% racist either.
What scares me is that I'm setting myself up for performance anxiety: as a white man I must be better, I must be perfect in every way, especially in bed. I'll be going there with the goal to claim her, impress her, convert her and not just have a good time. The bar is so high.

Plus there's always the initial stress of going down with a new partner. Mix it with what I've just said and yeah I'm terrified.
So I'm not making any move right now until I can work on myself and that mindset. If I go in right now, I can feel the catastrophic night coming. As much as I LOVE our kink, it's doing a huge disservice to me right now by constantly glazing white men and focusing on white superiority.

Any advice?

Don’t go in thinking about it being bleached or interracial or anything, you want to have a good time with her and she does with you, just treat her like you would any other girl you have had in bed, show her what you like and get to know what she likes. If at any point she were to get into it, it would be because she wants to… just make sure you both have fun and that should be fine~!

Just dont do interracial then:p

JostoBWC said:

So I'm a white guy who only has experience with white women and I've been wanting to do interracial and try out different types of women. As much as I love WMAF, I want to start with a black girl, I just love the contrast between chocolate and vanilla.
But the truth is... I'm scared shitless

The girl is definitely NOT into that kink so I'll behave normally, that's not the problem. I'm not 100% racist either.
What scares me is that I'm setting myself up for performance anxiety: as a white man I must be better, I must be perfect in every way, especially in bed. I'll be going there with the goal to claim her, impress her, convert her and not just have a good time. The bar is so high.

Plus there's always the initial stress of going down with a new partner. Mix it with what I've just said and yeah I'm terrified.
So I'm not making any move right now until I can work on myself and that mindset. If I go in right now, I can feel the catastrophic night coming. As much as I LOVE our kink, it's doing a huge disservice to me right now by constantly glazing white men and focusing on white superiority.

Any advice?

If it's getting in the way, I'd suggest stepping back from the bleached porn for a bit. It might help to watch some non-raceplay porn featuring white men with black women, where the focus is not on their race. It might help you get into a better mindset; the reality is that there is no practical difference between having sex with a white woman vs. a woman of any other race, except that beautiful visual contrast between white and brown skin.

Oh boy... You should calm your ass down first and think about it rationally.
If you really want something serious with a black girl, you should let it happen naturaly. DO NOT try to rush anything. It's a natural process and you need to have some patience for anything in a releationship.
In this time, you should really just try and forget your kink. It's a kink for a reason, not a whole godamn lifestyle. Just like with anything sexual in a releationship (or with ANYTHING else), you need to wait and let it happen slowly and naturally.
When you two get togheter, have some beautiful moments and things slowly start to get sexual, it's still not the time for anything bleached kink releated. Keep it vanilla ( no pun intended). Over time, you could slowly insert your kink in disguise.
Like complimenting her or the contrast between you and her. Any Interracial releationship will have some interracial-kink involved somehow.
Back when i had a black gf, a time where i wasn't into the bleached community, we slowyl got some interracial-kinky interactions over time.
You could openly say that you like black girls more and compliment her looks. Don't take it too far tho, learn your and her limits.
Only when she trusts you and you trust her and the releationship has already progressed, you can incooperate your bleached kink into the releationship. Don't overdo it but you can start with it slowly and with no disguise.
Over time, she may be into it too.

JostoBWC said:

So I'm a white guy who only has experience with white women and I've been wanting to do interracial and try out different types of women. As much as I love WMAF, I want to start with a black girl, I just love the contrast between chocolate and vanilla.
But the truth is... I'm scared shitless

The girl is definitely NOT into that kink so I'll behave normally, that's not the problem. I'm not 100% racist either.
What scares me is that I'm setting myself up for performance anxiety: as a white man I must be better, I must be perfect in every way, especially in bed. I'll be going there with the goal to claim her, impress her, convert her and not just have a good time. The bar is so high.

Plus there's always the initial stress of going down with a new partner. Mix it with what I've just said and yeah I'm terrified.
So I'm not making any move right now until I can work on myself and that mindset. If I go in right now, I can feel the catastrophic night coming. As much as I LOVE our kink, it's doing a huge disservice to me right now by constantly glazing white men and focusing on white superiority.

Any advice?

If you're stressed out, she'll be stressed out. It's sex, it's meant to be fun! If you mess up, don't call attention to it. Just tease the fuck outta her, both verbally and physically.

Relax and enjoy being with her. You seem to be putting her on a really high pedestal. Treat her like any of the other girls you've been with. No girl is expecting perfection, in fact, they get bored of it. Do what you usually do, as it's been working for you so far with white girls, right?

You're always going to fuck up. Even the best guys ever fuck up. Think of all the guys who were great people, smart, brave, funny, and had loving healthy families back home and they got killed in war because they simply stood up at the wrong time, or were unlucky.

In civilized society, we do not die when we fuck up. If you are not dead, you can recover, learn, think, and do better (in that order.) I guarantee any woman who isn't retarded will prefer a guy she's seen fuck up and recover gracefully from it and move forward than someone "perfect" who loses his marbles if everything doesn't go to plan (It never does.)

Anyways, the impression I'm getting from what you're saying you want to do is you want to be perfect to a girl, prince charming, integrate raceplay into it so she associates these good times with your whiteness- so far as for her to think that you are "the one" and then to fuck off out of her life so she'll run around chasing white men forever to try and find that high once again. Evil plan, but take from that what you will. You do not have to be perfect in this scenario. You have to be good for a little while and disappear before she is able to sit down and pick apart all your flaws and come up with reasons to hate you.

As i've said to many other people many a time - if you are dating a woman unless she's an absolute freak it'd be best to just show them some bleached reddits since they're the most sanatised and then slowly introduce them to more aspects of the kink overtime.
If you introduce bleached as " Blacked for white people " most average girls are chill with it unless they see thet nazi stuff.